Are You Really Hearing Your Customer?

Your customer gives you so much information. The question is: are you hearing it?

Not just the words. Everything. Their tone, their body language, the questions they ask and the ones they don’t. Even what they write in an email. Customers are constantly telling us what they need, what worries them and what will make them say yes. Yet so often we miss it, because we’re busy thinking about what we want to say next.

Listening is more than hearing words

Communication is far bigger than the words someone chooses. When you’re with a customer, ask yourself:

What is their body language saying? Are they leaning in and engaged, or folding their arms and glancing at the clock?
What is their tone saying? Is there excitement, hesitation or frustration behind the words?
What is everything they’re saying, saying? Put it all together and look for the real message underneath.

A customer who says “that sounds fine” with a flat tone and a sideways glance is telling you something very different from one who says it with a smile. If you only hear the words, you’ll miss the objection you needed to address.

Do you really read the whole email?

Be honest. When a customer emails you, do you read every line? Or do you skim the first sentence, assume you know what they’re asking for, and fire off a reply?

I’d bet a high percentage of us do the latter. We don’t read the whole thing, and so we don’t really understand what the customer is trying to say. The result is a reply that answers the wrong question, a second email to clarify, and a customer who feels they haven’t been heard. That small moment of frustration can be the difference between keeping a client and losing one.

Why assumptions cost you sales

Assuming we already know what a customer wants feels efficient. In reality it’s one of the most expensive habits in sales and customer service. When we assume, we:

Recommend the wrong product or solution
Miss buying signals and hidden objections
Make the customer repeat themselves
Erode the trust that every good sale is built on

Customers buy from people who understand them. Listening, properly listening, is how you show that understanding.

How to really hear your customer

Here are five simple habits you can start using today:

Stop. Give the customer your full attention. Put the phone down, close the other tab and be present.
Watch as well as listen. Notice body language and tone, not just words. On video calls, keep your eyes on their face.
Read every word. Read the whole email before you reply. Then read it again and ask, “What are they really asking for?”
Ask, don’t assume. If something isn’t clear, ask an open question such as “Can you tell me a bit more about that?”
Play it back. Summarise what you’ve heard: “So what’s most important to you is…”. It confirms you’ve understood and shows the customer you care.

My challenge to you

This week, I challenge you to stop, listen and really hear what your customer is saying, and what they want from you. Notice how the conversation changes. Notice how much easier the sale becomes when the customer feels genuinely understood.

Want your team to listen and sell better?

At The Training Establishment, we help sales and customer service teams build the skills that turn conversations into results: active listening, questioning, handling objections and closing with confidence. We also run DiSC-OURSE workshops, using DiSC profiles to help your team understand different communication styles, so they can read their customers and each other more effectively.

Get in touch to find out how our sales training can help your team, you can book time with me here.

Bec Wiles

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Are You Really Hearing Your Customer?